“I Should Be Further Along By Now” — Let’s Talk About That

This came up twice this week with two completely different clients.

Different industries, different stages — same sentence:

“I just feel like I should be further along by now.”

And I get it. I really do.

We’re surrounded by people hitting milestones, sharing wins, scaling businesses, pivoting careers… and it can feel like you’re somehow behind.

But here’s what we unpacked together:

Further along than what, exactly?

Because most of the time, we’re measuring ourselves against:

Someone else’s timeline

A version of success we didn’t consciously choose

Or expectations we picked up along the way

One client realised she was chasing a version of success she doesn’t even want anymore. That one hit.

The other realised she’d actually made huge progress — she just hadn’t stopped to acknowledge it.

So if this thought has been creeping in for you, try this:

A quick reframe exercise:

What have I actually done in the last 6–12 months?

What have I learned that I didn’t know before?

What would “enough” look like right now?

You might be a lot further along than you’re giving yourself credit for.

And if you’re not? That’s okay too — at least now you can move forward intentionally, not from pressure.

Worth a listen: Any episode of “The Diary of a CEO” that talks about timelines and success — it’s a good reminder that most journeys aren’t linear at all.

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