3 Signs You’re Living Someone Else’s Life (and How to Reclaim Yours)

Have you ever looked around and thought, “I should feel happy but something doesn’t feel right”?

You’re doing all the things showing up, working hard, caring for everyone yet somehow, you feel disconnected.

If that sounds familiar, you might be living according to someone else’s idea of success, rather than your own.

It’s easy to slip into. We’re surrounded by expectations, comparisons, and “shoulds” so much so that we forget to pause and ask what we actually want.

Here are three subtle signs that you’ve drifted from your own path, and what you can do to find your way back.

1. You feel tired even after “doing it all.”

You’re ticking the boxes, meeting deadlines, keeping the plates spinning but you’re exhausted in a way that rest doesn’t fix.

That’s not laziness or lack of motivation. That’s misalignment.

When we spend too much time chasing goals that don’t truly matter to us, our energy gets scattered.

Reclaiming your energy starts with asking: What’s actually mine to carry?

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is put a few things down.

2. You’re always comparing yourself to others.

Scrolling, watching, measuring, judging we all do it.

But constant comparison often signals something deeper: you’ve lost sight of your own definition of success.

When you know what you value, what’s right for you, and where you’re heading, other people’s paths stop feeling like a mirror.

You can admire them without losing yourself in the process.

3. You’re making decisions that don’t feel right.

On paper, everything looks fine maybe even impressive. But deep down, something feels off.

That quiet sense of unease isn’t a flaw; it’s guidance.

Your intuition is your compass, and it’s always trying to bring you back home to yourself.

When you start listening, you’ll notice that clarity comes not from doing more, but from aligning your choices with what truly feels right.

How to Reclaim Your Own Life

If any of these signs resonated, take a deep breath. You haven’t failed you’ve simply been human.

The good news? You can come back to yourself, one small step at a time.

Here’s where to start:

✨ Get quiet and honest with yourself.

✨ Ask what truly matters to you (not what looks good from the outside).

✨ Make small, daily choices that reflect your values.

✨ Let go of “shoulds” and follow what feels true, not just what feels safe.

You don’t need to start over, just realign.

Ready to get clear on what’s next?

If you’re ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating a life that feels right for you, I’d love to guide you through the process.

This January, I’m running 28 Days to Clarity a gentle, structured program designed to help you slow down, ask the right questions, and uncover what truly matters.

Together, we’ll work on reconnecting with your purpose, realigning your energy, and creating space for the life you actually want to live.

Join me and a wonderful group of uplifting people on the same journey as you for 28 Days to Clarity your reset for the year ahead.

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Jen x